My third (19 year) marriage ended officially when I moved out in June 2004, but it was over long before that. We lived as “brother and sister” for at least two years, did counseling, etc but the emotion, the spark was long gone and gone for good.
I lived alone with my cat for three months with nary a thought of reconciliation or any interest in finding another relationship so I played around on some of the adult web cites and talked (chatted online) to a few (very few) interesting people. I guess I still need conversation with adult humans sometimes. I am alive after all and a life without sex or at least the discussion and remote possibility of it, is just is not for me. But a relationship with another person….nooo way, to soon, way too much work, I need to be alone, in charge of my life for once. I do not fully know who I am and what I want and I definitely don’t know how to get there.
I got tired of not being able to make contacts with “free” memberships and a friend recommended an Alt.ernative cite and suggested I pay up and make some contacts for discussion and maybe much more. I signed up for the top “gold” membership not being one to go half way with anything and searched, browsed and generally looked around. I invited interesting people to my friends list, created a “hot list” and sent mail to several interesting ladies.
I winked at one young (31, I am 52) woman that had an interesting profile and we chatted for some time, went to the theater once, had dinner once and I have become her friend that listens to her adventures, provides advise, and I hope helps her get along in her relationship with a young man (we IM about once a month). You can’t have too many friends and I like to help people when I can.
I do not recall if she mailed or winked at me or I contacted her, no matter, one fine woman and I corresponded a few times and decided to meet for lunch at a local restaurant. She has a cute, sly smile and is very intelligent with a very cute face and nice curvy body with lot of great places to touch and ….sorry I digress from the story, suffice to say she’s a hotti in mind and body. We both liked what we saw and discussed and were soon on our first evening date, dinner and a walk.
We have been seeing one another for a month and I feel like I have known her my whole life. We have so many things in common and so many similar experiences it’s uncanny. To list a few of many, we both made candles and model airplanes as children; we have consistently picked the same meals from every restaurant we go to and the same at home.
It always happens when you least expect it and are not looking for them, you find a person to love, an undeniable connection, an electric bond the draws you to one another and despite life’s many challenges you may have found “The One”. The one that can overlook your many faults and weaknesses cherish your strengths. Let the adventure begin anew life is good, new love is good and others should be so happy and lucky.
IS this my soul mate……….